Healing as Reclaiming Our Humanity
What does healing mean to you? Inspired by Paulo Freire, I see it as reclaiming our humanity… When we are hurt, we begin to feel a little less like ourselves. We internalise what the world says to us: that we are “too much” or need to “tone it down a bit”. In response, we retreat […]
The Pressure To Be ‘The Best’ or ‘Number 1’
For over two decades, I held on to an unrealistic goal to be “the best” writer in the world. Why? Because I thought that if I’m the best, I will be accepted by the people around me. I didn’t know what I meant by “the best”. So, I defined it using impractical standards that I […]
Hope: The Linchpin of Change
I used to think that if I always expected the worst in every situation, I will never be disappointed. If by chance, something good happened, I would be happily surprised. If only bad things happened, it would be exactly what I expected. It felt like a good way to think. So, I never allowed myself […]
This Is Why You Absorb Other People’s Emotions
Have you ever found yourself feeling sad without reason? Such unexplained emotions may not be your emotions at all. We, humans, tend to absorb other people’s emotions. We take in the energy and emotions that are around us. And, then, we sometimes forget that they came from outside of us, and carry them as if […]
How to Overcome Your Fears as an HSP
Popular opinion is that sensitive people are more afraid. In fact, I’ve heard a counsellor say “sensitive is just unsorted phobia.” However, this isn’t quite accurate. Sensitive people are NOT more afraid than others. They just like to analyse their fears more carefully. Rather than jump into something new or dangerous, they think about whether […]
Why Sensitive People Search for Meaning in Suffering
Suffering is universal. We all suffer in our own ways. We experience disappointments. We are rejected by those whose appreciation we want. We lose people we love. We tussle with our emotions, feel isolated at times, and struggle to find our way back to normalcy. When we suffer, it often feels completely meaningless. And the […]